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A Lotus in a Tulipfield

On adoption from Bangladesh and life in the Netherlands

Rina Duijnker • Boek • paperback

  • Samenvatting
    ʻA lotus in a tulip field’ is a heartfelt memoir written bij Rina
    Duijnker (born 1971), who was adopted from Bangladesh at
    the age of five. With openness and compassion, she takes
    readers through her memories of life in Bangladesh and her
    journey of growing up in the Netherlands as an adoptee.
    At the core of her story is the complex relationship with her
    adoptive mother, a dynamic that has shaped much of her
    life. Rina’s story sheds light on the deep and often painful
    questions many adoptees deal with: “Who are my real parents?”
    “Is the information about my past even accurate?” 
    And, above all, the fundamental question: “Who am I?”
    With a mix of humor and raw emotion, Rina explores these
    themes, not just for herself, but as a voice for many Bengali
    adoptees who share similar experiences. Her journey
    reminds us that the question “Who am I?” isn’t always simple
    to answer. In fact, her story offers meaningful insights not
    only for adoptees but for anyone who has ever struggled
    with identity issues.
    “This is an important and informative book for all adoptees.
    It speaks not only about Bangladesh as a country, but more
    importantly, about the impact of losing one’s biological
    mother, the difficult process of adjusting to an adoptive family,
    and the lifelong search for identity. It’s an eye-opening read
    for adoptive parents and professionals working with adoptive
    families alike.”

    Prof. René Hoksbergen
    (Professor Emeritus of Adoption Studies)
  • Productinformatie
    Binding : Paperback
    Distributievorm : Boek (print, druk)
    Formaat : 148mm x 210mm
    Aantal pagina's : 283
    Uitgeverij : Rina Duijnker
    ISBN : 9789090412429
    Datum publicatie : 10-2025
  • Inhoudsopgave
    Prologue ................................................................................................................ 11
    Introduction ......................................................................................................... 13
    Part I A new future ............................................................................................. 18
    1. Barrel full of contradictions ................................................................ 20
    2. Family life .............................................................................................. 30
    3. Adoption ................................................................................................ 39
    Part II Living and Surviving ............................................................................. 56
    4. Daily life in the Netherlands ............................................................... 57
    5. Surviving ....................................................................................................... 67
    6. Puberty .......................................................................................................... 78
    7. Moving Out ................................................................................................. 95
    8. Road to independence .............................................................................. 104
    Part III Lost ....................................................................................................... 116
    9 Back to my roots ........................................................................................ 117
    10. Relationships............................................................................................ 135
    11. Out of control ......................................................................................... 147
    12 Motherhood .............................................................................................. 162
    13. Changes .................................................................................................... 179
    PART IV From surviving to thriving ............................................................ 186
    14. New love .................................................................................................. 187
    15. Becoming a mother for the second time! ........................................... 197
    16. Adoptees from Bangladesh ................................................................... 211
    PART V The history of Bangladesh .............................................................. 239
    17. Ancient History ....................................................................................... 240
    18. Recent History ......................................................................................... 243
    PART VI Back to the Future .......................................................................... 247
    19. Back in Bangladesh after 25 years ........................................................ 249
    20. Living in two worlds ............................................................................... 271
    Acknowledgements ........................................................................................... 280
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‘Hey, take a look at this!’ I read on the Facebook group for adopted
Bengalis. Below the post is a link to a video. Without thinking about it, I
click on the link.
In the video, I see what looks like a small school. It’s made up of large,
open tents where all the children sit in rows, reciting the words from the
blackboard in unison. Next, I see an orphanage. It reminds me of the
Salvation Army of Mother Teresa, where two Dutch women, Eva den
Hartog and Grace Samson, used to work.
Outside, on the green lawn, a few little kids are playing with toys while
being looked after by the caretakers. A disabled child is sitting on a
blanket with their caretaker. Another child is playing with colorful
blocks. At a small table, a few children are busy drawing and coloring.
The camera focuses on one of the girls. She has short black hair and is
wearing a bright white dress. She leans forward a bit, coloring eagerly.
I look at that girl, and I see something familiar in her. I get
goosebumps. The girl looks up, and I stare right into her big, brown
eyes. I’m startled-this can’t be, I think. She has a serious expression,
glancing around a bit. She senses someone is watching her but then
returns to her coloring. Out of curiosity, she looks up again and playfully
sticks her tongue out just a little. I laugh, but at the same time, I feel cold
and confused watching her like this.
In the next scene, the group of little children is singing, and then they
pretend to fall asleep. The girl in the white dress plays along
enthusiastically and seems to be having a lot of fun. She bursts out
laughing when one of the caretakers, whom I recognize as Eva den
Hartog, tickles her. The girl looks at me again, laughing, and sticks her
tongue out playfully. I can’t help but smile at this joyful little girl. I laugh
back at her with tears in my eyes, looking at her with fascination. A little
later, she’s sitting inside at the table, ready for dinner, which consists of
rice and dahl. It looks warm and cozy. Before they eat, they all bow their
heads to pray.
At the end of the video, a plane is waiting on the tarmac of Dhaka
Airport. The caregivers from the Salvation Army board the plane with
three young children, including the cheerful, smiling girl. One of the
caretakers carries her up the stairs. At the bottom of the steps, the
remaining children and staff from the orphanage wave them off. I see
the girl waving back enthusiastically, unaware of where she’s headed or
what awaits her.
I embraced that little girl, hugged her, and held her tight. Together, we
were about to embark on a great, exciting journey. A journey that begins
at this airport and takes us to the unknown Netherlands. ×
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