"It will always be one of my difficulties in life, I think. In any case, I was continually learning how to keep my head above water all the time until I was 40 years old. After my 40th birthday I was diagnosed as having Trisomy-X syndrome, which fully explained a lot of my struggles.
Please also make a list of all the things you like to do, even if it seems like there are too many things to mention. Just take a look at your calendar: how much time do you think you will need to be able to do something?
There will be some things that will have to wait. You can choose just the one you like the most.
Before you start the activity, please be certain you know how you want it to work out. What is your purpose? Why would you like to do this? How much time do you really think you need to do this properly?
-Sometimes the other person was very right after all; about the risk of exhaustion. Maybe this activity wasn't suitable for me, for whatever reason. Fortunately, we can always choose some other activity from our personal list!
Please do not feel uncomfortable about it; this is your personal list, these are your wishes and above all, these are your limits. You will learn how to deal with it. Just knowing that you are truly finding your way will give you strength. You will learn more and more about yourself.
-A thing that often bothers me, is that I find it difficult to focus on my own feelings and thoughts, to not get influenced by my environment and to hold on to my own intuition. Sometimes there just isn't enough space to listen well - some people talk so loudly and behave in a very dominant way that makes it hard for me to find the time that I need to get my own thoughts and feelings in order before I respond.
I just want to think things over: 'What was it that I wanted and what had I made up my mind to do?'
The word 'wanting' often came up in my life, time and time again, especially after I’d started to live my own life better. 'What is it that I really want to do?' I often asked myself. Although many people had tried to teach me to ask myself that personal question, it had never got through to me before. I had to find out for myself.
To hold on to your own thoughts and feelings in the middle of a crowded shopping mall or in the middle of a group is difficult - I know all about it. But it really does bring a whole lot of power with it when you do succeed." ×